How to attract the right life partner in our lives

This article explains the changes that we need to make in our subconscious mind to attract a right life partner for ourselves. The right match is a supplement for us who makes us become a better version of who we are but cannot complete us.

Introduction

We all have gone through bad relationships which kept us miserable for several days or maybe for years. Relationships do not last long if partners are not meant for each other or not made for each other. In the beginning, if we discover that our partner isn't right for us then we can save ourselves from going through all that pain and suffering. This is why we need to find a right life partner for ourselves. If partners are right for each other then relationship blossoms and if partners are misfits then the relationship may never reach the next level. 

Finding a perfect match is difficult

If finding a right partner was more like a child's game, then each and every person on this earth would have been happy and whether it is a relationship or marriage, it would have turned out to be perfect in every sense. However, this task does not seem to be easy. There are billions of people around us and finding right person from them seems really a challenge. We can see that time is ticking and most of us are struggling to find that right one with whom we can spend rest of our lives happily. This is why we take initiative and let ourselves out. We date others, get into a relationship with them and even move in with them. However, sooner or later, we will discover that the person isn't really right for us and thus we always end up dating and ending with wrong people. All we ask is a right life partner who can perfectly fit in our lives and always end up attracting or getting attracted to wrong people.

Our subconsciousness is the culprit

We only attract what we really want. We can neither blame our destiny nor others for ending up with misfits. Somewhere in the subconscious mind of ours, we wanted a misfit for ourselves, at least for time being and that is what leads us on. The relationship that did not last long or did not do well can also be a stepping stone in our lives. We get to learn so much from it. The energy that we put outside or vibrate will eventually attract the same type of energy. If our intention is to attract love then we will vibrate love and seek the same. If we vibrate energy that says we are not interested in a long lasting relationship then we will always attract those people who feel the same and thereby we can find ourselves ending up with the same ones every time. 

Most of us have no idea about what kind of energy we are letting out. If we concentrate a little, we will soon realize that our energy and thoughts usually revolve around what we do not want, rather than what we want. If we think more regarding what we want then we are going to eventually end up getting what we want. If our thoughts revolve around what we do not want in our life partner then mainly, we are vibrating fear and our energy lacks confidence. Thus, our fear comes true and we always end up with people with all those qualities which we did not want in them. We need to monitor our thoughts carefully and change them from what we do not want to what we want in order to attract right life partner for ourselves. 

Right life partners are like supplements

It is not wrong to search for someone who shares common interests and likings. However, it is wrong to search for someone who might complete us. There is no one who can really complete us. We ourselves are the ones to complete us. Our right partner can help us in our personal growth. Every day they can help us to become better versions of ourselves. Thus, they are like supplements to us, but in no way, they can complete us. Thus, we need to be sure what our intentions are. Sometimes, we end up with right partner but due to our high expectations, we kind of lose them. When we attract misfits for ourselves, they never help us to become better versions of ourselves and that is why we feel disconnected with them. This is why we cannot feel complete when we team up with them but feel complete when the partner is right. A relationship can only be termed as healthy and will blossom well if both the partners are consciously aware that they are complete in themselves. When both the partners feel that way, they can give their best self to each other and help each other completely.

Create an image of a perfect partner

We may need to be clear about what we are looking for. If we are not really sure of what we want and we keep looking then no way we are ever going to find a right life partner for ourselves. We thus need to create a mental image of what we really want in our partner. We need not be too picky and thus focus should not be more on physical characteristics. The focus should be mainly on the kind of qualities we need in them, the kind of personality which we find attractive etc.

Believe in the existence of true life partner

Most of us, after a few attempts, just give up on love. We need to wait as there is the right time for everything. If we want our life partner to be the right match for us, then we need to wait for the right time. If we become impatient and just grab hands of someone as we feel that time is ticking then we are definitely going to regret our decision for not waiting for the right partner and the right time. We cannot let all those lonely soles bother us who lived alone and died the same. Maybe they wanted to be alone and that is why they were destined to be alone. If we really want to find a right partner for ourselves then sooner or later, we are going to end up with them. If our intentions are clear then no one can stop us from searching the perfect match for ourselves. 

Perfect person does not exist

No one on this earth is perfect. We all carry our flaws and that is why it is foolishness to look for a perfect person on this earth. However, we can find a perfect life partner for ourselves. Our perfect life partner too will have their flaws and undesirable traits. However, their good qualities will overshadow their bad ones and make them completely unnoticeable at least for us. If we learn to accept them for who they are and love them unconditionally then their flaws may not even count. When they do the same then it is said that match is made in heaven and thus the two perfect partners make a relationship perfect. For this, first, we need to learn to appreciate ourselves and love ourselves by completely accepting who we are. Once we do so, we will attract partners who will have the same trait and appreciate us completely. If we ourselves lack this quality then we are going to end up attracting all those partners who are actually unappreciative in nature and thus commitments we make with them do not last very long.

Conclusion

Earning money, establishing a business, advancing in a career are not the only goals in life. Most of us crave for love in our lives and want a perfect partner who can love us madly and complete us in all the ways. However, we often attract misfits for ourselves and always end up in relationships with wrong people. We first need to know what is going on in our subconscious mind. Our thoughts should revolve around what we want instead of what we do not want in our partner. If we vibrate fear, then we are going to attract fear and all those wrong entities. We need to truly believe in love and should have complete hope that our right life partner exists in this world. If we wait patiently then we will for sure end up with them in a loving relationship. We need to keep one thing in mind that life partner can be a right supplement for us and we need them so that we can become better versions of who we are right now. We cannot depend on them to complete us as it is we who can complete us and not them. 

Lastly, we need to understand that no person on this earth is perfect. All we can look for in a person is the perfect partner for ourselves. When two people appreciate each other for who they are, overlooking all the flaws and love each other unconditionally then their relationship becomes perfect and magical.

How to Prepare for Civil Services along with Post Graduation course?

Want to pursue Post Graduation studies while preparing for Civil Services or other competitive examination? We are discussing what are the disadvantages of studying while preparing for Civil Services exam and how to prepare for Civil Services exam effectively while continuing Post Graduation Studies.


If civil services is your dream career, it is likely that you are looking for resources and materials for cracking the Civil Services exam from as early as graduation level. Along with that you must be looking for articles regarding your possibilities of getting into the most prestigious job by examining yourself in the parameters of background, stream, bio-data, graduation subjects, UPSC civil service exam optional subjects etc. You want to know if it is possible to crack this tough exam while preparing for MA, MBA or M.Sc simultaneously for various reasons. Here we shall discuss the pros and cons of preparing for civil services during your Post Graduation studies. We will also provide useful tips to best optimize your Post Graduation Study time for Civil service exam.

Why you should not opt for Civil Service preparation while studying PG?

Civil Services exam is a tough exam and it demands undivided attention from an aspirant. It is good if you are doing a job that is not so stressful or demand your whole hearted attention, but studying PG while preparing means that you are not giving your hundred percent to both. Many top ranked students in 2014 UPSC final result had given up their coveted PG seats to pursue their dream career in UPSC because their courses would be rigorous. Although subjects in Humanities are less rigorous they demand you lot of activities which may hamper serious study for UPSC exam. Keep these points in mind :

1. Success in the Civil services depends a little on luck also though hard work is a foregone conclusion. So a back up career is often required in case you are not successful in Civil services.
2. A good percentage in Post Graduation can ensure a better career option other than Civil services.
3. Civil services needs intensive study of many subjects at one go. Fore example your preparation of General Studies for UPSC Civil Services Prelims can be a daunting task and you may miss some studies of your Post Graduations subject.
4. Once you clear Prelims you will need to study Optional subject which may also hamper your Post Graduation Studies unless you do not choose the same subject you are studying in the Post Graduation level. It is observed that Science stream students generally opt for so called easy subjects like Education, Sociology, History Literature etc. So, be clear about your optional and the time it will demand.
5. If you are not serious about your preparation, you may lose your number of attempts. Because you are allowed only limited number of attempts for civil services.
6. Not being able to succeed in Prelims demoralize many aspirants at this level.

Why and how to prepare for Civil Services while pursuing Post Graduation

Civil Service is your dream career and you may please to choose to start preparing at any point provided your age permits it. Students age young as 21 years are cracking this prestigious exam and that too with top rank! So with determination, required amount of hard work and a bit of luck you can sail through this exam. As I have discussed the reasons that may have negative impact on your choice of preparing Civil services while studying Post Graduation there are many plus points too. By utilizing these you can embrace success in Civil Services.

Here is how: 

1. Preparing while studying will help you if if you take the same optional for UPSC mains.
2. You can form a study circle among your class mates or hostel mates which is often not possible while staying back at home after completion of studies.
3. Talk to your teachers about your goal. You can prepare answers for your mains exams and consult your Teachers for guidance regarding answer writing.
4. You can utilize the University Library facility like number of news (broadsheet)papers, magazines necessary for the preparation.
5. It gives you extra time for preparation for the Civil Services. You can share your mistakes in exam with fellow aspirants.

Conclusion

As I have told already it is absolutely your choice whether to prepare or not to prepare for Civil Services during Post Graduation Studies, it should be absolutely your own personal style of preparation how to do the preparation for the Civil Services. Some say it is good to do a job while preparing for Civil Services while some other say that it is good to focus on study only. But the fact is that preparation for Civil Studies is a lengthy process and you don't get any short cut to success. Very few have cleared the exam in first attempt and you cannot promise that you will do the same even though you are prepared to work hard. So preparation for UPSC Prelims, preparation for Mains and Interview, then again starting all over again for failure in any stage are all part of the game. So I would recommend starting preparation for Prelims at the Post Graduation level. Start aside two hours daily for General Studies preparation initially and gradually intensify your preparation. Sitting for prelims is not counted as an attempt. So you can be on safe side by simply opting for preparation for Prelims.

Best tips on how to live a happy life

In this world full of stress, everyone has his/her share of problems which are likely to make him/her unhappy. This article provides some basic but effective tips that will help you in coping up with your problems and staying happy


The first and foremost step towards happiness is believing that Happiness is a choice.. Many will argue that happiness is a feeling and, like other feelings, it is temporary as well; it depends on the circumstances that a person is in. It's true that sometimes our circumstances make us sad and there are many factors that pull us down. However, if we believe that happiness is a choice, we will make a conscious effort to get out of that sadness. Being happy can be treated like a habit. As a habit is developed by continuously repeating the same thing, we can train ourselves to be happy over time; we can train ourselves to see the positive side of things no matter what the circumstances are. Some of the basic things which an individual can follow in his/her pursuit of happiness are :-

Stop comparing

Comparison is one of the primary reasons for unhappiness in most of the people's lives. No matter who you are, whether a student or a company employee, if you compare your progress with someone else's, you're bound to be unhappy. When you compare yourself with someone and start competing with him/her in your mind, you are actually working up to his potential not yours. If you are on a task, set a benchmark for yourself that I have to achieve this much by this time. It should not affect you whether the other person is behind you or doing better than you. There is a proverb that "If the grass looks greener on the other side, stop staring, comparing and start watering the grass you are standing on".

Stop complaining

If something is not going right in your life, go make it right. Don't just keep on sitting and complain to others about how bad your life is. It never helps. The more you think about the negative aspects of a situation, the more you complain about it, the unhappier you will get. Moreover, if you always keep on complaining, everyone around will get negative vibes from you; no one wants to be friends with a negative person; it may drive your friends apart from you leading to nothing but unhappiness. When something wrong or unfair happens to you, accept it and then take steps in the direction to overcome it. There is a proverb that "Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses."


Set your priorities straight

Every day when you wake up, make a list of things you need to do for the day; prioritize your tasks. Do everything in life, have fun as much as you can, try everything but first of all do what is important. If you want to work on your body, get up early in the morning, exercise for some time and then go on with the rest of your day. If you are a student, before opening facebook, firstly open your books and study for some time; after coming back from school, revise everything and then do whatever you want. If you are a company employee, finish your work as soon as possible. Procrastinating your work till the deadline will make you very anxious as the deadline comes near. If everything is prioritized, you will be able to achieve more and enjoy more at the same time. There is no guilt while enjoying if one completes the important tasks first and living without guilt is absolutely beautiful.


Make good friends

Having good friends can be really soothing in any situation. By good friends, I mean people with whom you can share anything without the fear of being judged. A friend is not the one with whom you are having fun all the time; a real friend is the one in front of whom you can even cry. Make friendships that are deeper than just having fun or partying all the time. Sometimes, there are things that you can't discuss with your family as you don't want them to get worried or because you fear that they might not understand. On the other hand, you can share your each and every problem with a good friend. He/She might not be able to provide you the solution, but you will be assured that you are not alone in any situation; your friend will always be there for you. Often, we get stressed up about things and a lot of negative emotions keep building inside us. Sharing them with a friend helps to let the frustration out and we can start fresh.


Be ambitious

People say that one should be complacent with what he/she have; contentment is happiness. It's not entirely true. One can be discontent and happy at the same time. When you achieve one goal, embrace it, celebrate it and then forget about it. Set another goal for yourself. This is because every accomplishment brings happiness. When you achieve something, you feel really good about yourself and feeling good about yourself is a major step towards being happy.


Keep yourself busy

Most of our negative thoughts occur when we are sitting idle, doing nothing. When we are just sitting, staring at the wall, we start contemplating our lives; we remember things from our past; all the memories flash, some good and some bad but our mind focuses more on the bad stuff. We start thinking that what went wrong and get sad about the things that happened way back. Sometimes, this sadness can be seriously addictive. It doesn't take much time to go from extremely happy to really sad. So, try to keep yourself busy as much as possible. In words of Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, "Work is the best antidote to sorrow".


Celebrate your accomplishments

Whenever you achieve something in life, no matter how small, celebrate it and create memories. There will be times when you'll feel invincible; whatever you do, you'll succeed in it. Celebrate each one of your successes as you never know when things start going against you. There may come a time and it certainly will when whatever you do, you'll fail. You'll do everything right but will not be able to succeed. Nature has a weird way of testing us. In those tough times, when you will feel like giving up, when you will be about to break down, the memories that you created in your good times will cheer you up and motivate you to keep going on.



Balance in lifeWhatever you do in life, balance is the most important thing. There is no such thing as right or wrong until you are maintaining a balance between the two. Party all night but don't forget to exercise the next day; eat junk food but take care of your health as well by taking good nutritious food; if you are a student, play your heart out but don't forget to study; connect with people on social networking sites but also go and socialize with people in real life; be a good speaker but also listen when someone else is speaking. There are plenty of things like this. If you try to maintain balance between everything in life, you will always be content and happy with yourself.



Last but not the least, accept yourself. There will be some things about you that you may consider as weaknesses, but they are not actually weaknesses. They are the things that are unique to you and make you who you are. Suppose a person is really emotional and gets affected by little things. He might end up really frustrated thinking that why this happens to me? Why do I get hurt so easily? Why do I feel everything so deeply? Don't be so hard on yourself. You are human and you are bound to have some traits that you don't like. Accept the fact that this is how you are; this is how God has made you. Many people make this mistake; they consider these traits as weaknesses and try to overcome them and on failing to do so end up getting really frustrated.

Accept the fact that there are some things that you just can't change. Accept them and embrace them with open arms. Don't' consider these traits as weaknesses. Make them your strength as they are unique to you. When you are at complete peace with yourself and completely accept yourself, there are very few chances that your happiness will be affected by external factors. Know who you are and don't let the verdict of other people affect your own view about yourself.